You are surrounded by people with feelings; every person you meet has some. With so many emotions in you and around you, it would be great to have a magic wand and waive those you do not like away. Well, life doesn’t work like that, which is why emotional competence is such an important life skill.
Emotionally competent people have learned how to deal with emotions. There are two sides to emotional competence; the intrapersonal and the interpersonal. Are you able to express, and regulate your feelings after recognizing and understanding them? Are you also able to respond healthily to the interactions and emotions of other people?
Daniel Goleman renowned author of Emotional Intelligence, says that emotional competence can be learned and is grounded in your overall emotional intelligence. This skill will enhance your personal, professional and relational performance, increasing your overall quality of life. Why? You will artfully manage other people’s feelings through the use of gratitude and empathy. You will also learn how to express yourself in a constructive, acceptable and productive manner, interpersonally and interpersonally.
Goleman suggests two significant components of the emotional competence framework;
- Social competence
Your emotional self- capability will empower your competitiveness socially and professionally.
How to raise your personal competence
- Raise your level of self-awareness
If you are highly self-aware, then you will be very capable of managing your emotions. Why? You understand yourself fully, your good and bad feelings included. This implies that you will showcase the right amount of emotions to fit the emotional situation you are in. To raise your level of self-awareness, you need to;
- Have the ability to assess yourself. Learn accurately your weaknesses as well as your strengths. Where you feel limited, act accordingly and embark on a journey to learn how to turn around those limitations. You can do this by taking time to reflect and learning from your experiences.
- Have self-confidence
With personal self-confidence, you will not only be sure of your abilities but will know your self-worth. You will then have a decisive approach when facing the odds; you can voice your concerns with clarity and confidence.
- Have self-regulation
Do you do checks and balances on your emotions? You need to have a balanced mindset when expressing your feelings. This way you can control aggression, control your impulses and save yourself from undue stress. Goleman says that people who can self-regulate have many admirable qualities including;
This is the ability to take responsibility for your actions. Your performance, commitments, and delivery are in your hands alone, and you take accountability for these attributes. In the workplace, this will render you very highly organized and will ensure that you meet your deadlines. In the workplace, this is a very valuable attribute.
A high level of honesty and integrity are attributes that makeup stand out professionals. This means too that your work ethic, is high and that you will admit and address your mistakes, making you an impeccable human to deal with.
A self-regulated person is also not afraid to try new technologies or skills. It makes you open to a broader perspective and a different way of doing things. You will love tackling challenges, which will make you a very valuable professional.
Do you have high standards for yourself? Do you strive to excel in your engagements? This means also having the wisdom to take inspiration from the successes of your peers. A self-motivated person has;
New challenges, new opportunities? Bring them on. Being a go-getter, a self-motivated person will act on new challenges, and go beyond their expectations. They will set new rules if the existing ones are counterproductive.
- A high achievement drive
Driven by excellence, they set high standards and work hard to meet them. They will set goals that challenge them and take well-calculated risks to meet them, and if they meet failure, they learn from it and use these lessons to mitigate in the future.
A committed self-motivated individual will make a more substantial sacrifice for the greater good
Failures will come, but a confident person will develop positive perception to overcome them.